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How do I avoid wedding stress over our different families?

Mrs. RJRG asked the question:


My fiance and I are non drinkers by choice (we are not recovering alcoholics). I am very worried about the reception. My family is conservative and traditional. His family is not.

I’ve been to a couple weddings for pepople on his side of the family and they like to drink and party like teenagers. I’ve gone so far to concider a ‘dry’ wedding.

However I am leaning more towards:
no bar, just two bottles of wine per table and a glass of champange for toasting.

Any thoughts? Anyone been through this? The thought just makes me cringe!

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4 Responses to “How do I avoid wedding stress over our different families?”

  1. digitaldiva1229 on February 26th, 2009 9:42 pm

    I have to experiences to draw from. First, I’m a professional wedding photographer and have shot many weddings and receptions where there was no alcohol at all. They might serve champagne for the toast but the rest was tea, water, soda, coffee. There was never any problems.

    The second was my own wedding. My husband and I do not drink either and our reception was without a dance though it had a full dinner and all the other festivities. My husbands family always have the alcohol and dancing. His mom and three sisters traveled 1500 miles to attend our wedding. 11 years later we still laugh when we think how bewildered they must have been at our sedate reception!

    Do what you want to do and enjoy every minute of it. You can always laugh about how confused his side was at the lack of a bar!

    Congratulations!

  2. Kitty on March 1st, 2009 4:21 pm

    I dunno, I got drunk at my own wedding, it was fun. I like your plan - this way, people still can drink and get a little buzz, but no one will get drunk excessively.

  3. gileswench on March 1st, 2009 8:33 pm

    You may limit the liquor, you may have a dry wedding. The choice is entirely up to you.

    But just as I don’t expect to be served steak if the happy couple are strict vegetarians and I don’t expect pork at a Jewish wedding, I don’t expect liquor if the couple is teatotal.

  4. sunshinedtm4747 on March 5th, 2009 1:53 am

    After thinking about your question, I came to the conclusion that you should have all or nothing, and in your case, I think it should be nothing. The reason behind this is this:

    I know at our hall, the employees are going to come up and inform me or the groom that we are out of drinks and if we want to refill. So if it’s the same at your hall, where you can have more “tabbed” onto your bill, the guests might come up to you and say “we’re out of alchohol. Can we get more?” Even if they pay for it, they know it is available and will want to get more from somewhere. Do no alcohol, then your fears will be gone. It’s your & your future husbands day, don’t let anything ruin it. If you think bad things could happen then avoid it.